I've got nothing.

Q: I'm 22, together 18 months with a man, 40. We get along well, but big fights happen when I try to stop his calling another woman three or four times daily over six years (they've never met). They used to have phone sex; he says they're now just friends.

There's a romantic tone to their relationship. He says she has mental problems and he must maintain the fantasy for her. He tells her he loves her. I've broken up with him but keep going back -- he's my first love, first lover. My family says I'm stupid but I cook, clean, spend time with him and have sex with him even when I'm left unsatisfied.

I can't accept her and he's not willing to give her up. He suggested I stop contact with him, and when he's rid of her, he'll tell me. But why can't she wait instead of me?

In Pain

Dear In Pain:

Oh dear. Miss Nihilist is speechless. And that rarely happens – if ever!

Perhaps you should try… no. Maybe if you…. No.

In Pain, you’ve achieved the impossible. You’ve stumped Miss Nihilist.

I’m afraid that I can’t help you, or give you advice. You’re just that pathetic. Much too pathetic to save. Good luck walking and talking at the same time. Have a great life!