Q: My husband is a good friend with a couple who swing. He’d like us to start swinging as well, but I’m very uncomfortable with this idea. I think this lifestyle would be very unhealthy both physically and emotionally. We’re at an impasse. He says I’m too narrow-minded, and that exploring his sexuality is very important to him. He says his friends have the strongest marriage because they allow each other to step out.
-Confused in Edmonton
A: Dear Confused in Edmonton,
I must admit that your letter made me confused too. I’m not sure what the problem is here. Your husband wants to swing. Why do you feel it would be unhealthy for your relationship? Physically, I get; prolonged swinging can really make your ass hurt, but emotionally? Does the wood hurt your soul?
So Confused, here is my advice to you: loosen up! Sometimes what a relationship really needs is a good swing! You get your husband to push, you swing your legs out, dangle them over the side, and feel the wind through your hair. I agree that your friends likely have a strong marriage because they are considerate towards each other. They “step out” together, one person pushes the other, and the other person swings. It’s like being a child all over again. So relax and have fun with it. Make weekly trips to the playground if that helps.
Lastly, I’m concerned that your husband sees swinging as part of his “sexuality”. Is it the child/adolescent aspect of it? Have you talked to your husband about pedophilia? I suggest that you have your husband contact me for advice STAT. In the meantime, I sincerely hope you thoroughly enjoy your swinging.
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
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i think you may want to look further into the definition of swinging when it pertains to married couples. Still, interesting take on it.
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